Willpower- Make it or Break it

We have the power to choose our friends, choose where we want to go, who we talk to, and what we do. Willpower is the quality that can transport us from hopeless and defeated, to confident and successful. We have the power to change our life everyday. This transformation starts with our mentality.

As we grow up, we realize that we are in charge of our own happiness. When we are little, most of our parents sign us up for every activity in the book, hoping that we will find our passion. They push us to do things we may not want to do, but their encouragement pushes us out of our comfort zone and in the end we turn out to like the one thing we thought we wouldn’t. We went into this activity having no expectations, but to possibly enjoy our time. We are older now and do not have parents or guardians signing us up for activities or encouraging us do things -they still are there for support-; it is now up to us to believe in ourselves and in our goals. Our expectations are higher and our choices seem alot harder. We wish we were young again, when the only expectation was to have fun. We now feel the pressure of time and competition. Naturally, peoples’ opinions matter more to us than ever before. We become shaped by other peoples’ and society’s standards, rather than ours.  Are we controlling ourselves, or are others controlling us?

Obviously, having willpower is easier to say then to put into action. As a dancer, I know that if we really want to pursue something in life, we must be determined and able to stand our ground no matter the circumstances. If we have the commitment and determination, we are already halfway there. We will face rejection, criticism, and discouragement, but none of that matters if we believe we can achieve. Taking that criticism and using it, will make us that much stronger. Although it is tempting to give up, people are intimidated by people who do not give in. Perseverance through an obstacle shows a real strength of character.

As a young ballerina, I face criticism everyday. There was one week where I cried everyday after my ballet classes. I am a perfectionist, which most dancers are, meaning I may take criticism or mistakes more harshly than others. Over the years, I have learned to control my feelings while being judged -the criticism made me stronger-, but I still do get quite sensitive. I have to understand that I chose a competitive field where we are judged by our body, mind, and ability. Not many make it as a professional, therefore, everyday is an opportunity to improve and prove your talent. There is not alot of support in the classroom, because everyone is fighting for the same job or role. The pressure put on a ballet dancer is so high that many talented dancers quit because they feel they do not have the mental strength to succeed. I believe this mindset is a universal reason for why people give up. Of course, if what we are doing affects our well being, than maybe it is time to find something new.

However, there are ways to change our perspective. When I feel stuck in the same routine, frustrated with my slow progression, I try to think of one thing I want to work on and think about in each class. Maybe it is to listen to the music more, or work on the expression of my face. There is so much already to think about in ballet, putting an emphasis on one aspect in particular, can really help me get more out of classes. I find when I get hard on myself my progression slows down because my mind is already at a place of defeat. How can we improve, if our mind is telling ourselves, we can’t? Know that everyone is capable of being better. We may not see results everyday, but the betterment is happening, because we are putting in the effort to make it. Do not be scared of the challenge, but face it and push through. No one becomes successful by shying away from risks. You have willpower; use it!

This can go for anything. Perhaps we are getting frustrated with the way things are going in our math class. We are studying hard, but still failing the tests. The temptation of giving up is looking better and better. We have the willpower to change our attitude. Talk to the teacher, ask for extra credit or advice. This shows determination to succeed and the will to do anything to get there. What teacher wouldn’t like a student who puts in the extra effort? Sometimes the teacher will be no help and leave it up to us to find the solution to our problems. This means slow down and observe ways in which our study habits can improve. Being patient with progression is part of the journey, as long as we are trying to progress, we will get there. Do not rush or get frustrated, that will only hold ourselves back.

Finding our inner willpower will help us to accomplish our goals. Learning from others will help us grow, but also learning from ourselves, because we know ourselves best. Do not wait for others’ approval or praise; we do not have time for that. We do have time to give them advice on our success! We need to take the initiative to make our desires come true. If we want to be successful at something, then we can do it! We are already one step there by putting it in our mind, now we must take action.


The Mind Marks the Beginning of All Possibilities


As cliché as it sounds, you are the only one with enough power to make a change in your life. Though people can come in and out of your life, shaping the person you are, ultimately, you decided whether you let those people destroy you or make you a better person.

I know how it feels to undergo frustration and fear of failure. Usually you let the mind get the best of you. It is important to remember that you are only hurting yourself in the end by letting negative emotions control your life.

Everyday, I want to remind myself to stay positive, because a positive mind brings a positive life. In my blog, I aspire to encourage others to fight for their dreams and live their life fearlessly. Life is not about being successful, but about being happy with who you are and where you are, sharing your joyfulness with others. A positive attitude is contagious! I am not saying everyday will be a great ball of sunshine (trust me I know); those more frustrating days are just there for us to grow and learn, so that the next time that experience happens we will be ready for it and take it on with a new perspective.

As I am being inspired everyday, I hope you are too! Have the courage to be free from expectations, doubt, insecurities, rejection, obligations and negativity. The only one that can set you free is you!